Parenting The Father
5 Child Rearing Tips You Can Use in The Bedroom
warning: content is not appropriate for those under 18
by Deb Peraya
Recently I was online
watching some video clips from a couple of very
helpful moms, who had all kinds of useful advice for
coaching children. As I watched these pearls of
wisdom, it occurred to me that the techniques didn’t
have to stop at parenting. And so, I humbly share my
thoughts on how these parenting nuggets can ease some
other challenges in your life. You know, with him. In
the bedroom.
1. Manage Choices I know as a busy mom they overwhelm me so it's not surprising it overwhelms them. That's why I really try to make things manageable for them. The first thing I like to do is break things down into 20 minutes sections so that they can feel a sense of achievement. Then they can tackle them one by one.
2. Don't Overwhelm Them I always start with foreplay. I know. This can vary so much from man to man, and let's face it, we're lucky if we get twenty minutes total - are you with me ladies? But it's important to warm them up, get the blood flowing so that when the big event happens, they really feel prepared and confident.
3. Make Time For Breaks I find if my guy knows he's going to get a break at the end, it helps him stay focused on the task at hand. I do suggest structuring the break as well. Use a stop watch and allow a reasonable amount of time for bathroom or water or a small snack to keep his energy up before moving on to the main event.
4. Assign Specific Tasks Just the same way you'll offer his black shirt or his blue button down, give a manageable number of appropriate choices. Left breast or right? With tongue or without? Keep in mind, I did say appropriate. While the time will come when you will want to introduce the clitoris or perhaps even venture further south, until all is primed and ready, to offer those choices earlier could be extremely painful. And embarrassing. And once they suffer a confidence setback, it can take a lot of time to get them back on track.
5. Establish A Routine Set a routine that works for you. Acknowledge that you appreciate its tough, but you support and love them and together you two can do this. And if he's having those bothersome meltdowns when even reminded to get in there, remind him that if you can shock his nipples and swallow, he can pay attention to your body with more than one of his appendages. But always, with love.
1. Manage Choices I know as a busy mom they overwhelm me so it's not surprising it overwhelms them. That's why I really try to make things manageable for them. The first thing I like to do is break things down into 20 minutes sections so that they can feel a sense of achievement. Then they can tackle them one by one.
2. Don't Overwhelm Them I always start with foreplay. I know. This can vary so much from man to man, and let's face it, we're lucky if we get twenty minutes total - are you with me ladies? But it's important to warm them up, get the blood flowing so that when the big event happens, they really feel prepared and confident.
3. Make Time For Breaks I find if my guy knows he's going to get a break at the end, it helps him stay focused on the task at hand. I do suggest structuring the break as well. Use a stop watch and allow a reasonable amount of time for bathroom or water or a small snack to keep his energy up before moving on to the main event.
4. Assign Specific Tasks Just the same way you'll offer his black shirt or his blue button down, give a manageable number of appropriate choices. Left breast or right? With tongue or without? Keep in mind, I did say appropriate. While the time will come when you will want to introduce the clitoris or perhaps even venture further south, until all is primed and ready, to offer those choices earlier could be extremely painful. And embarrassing. And once they suffer a confidence setback, it can take a lot of time to get them back on track.
5. Establish A Routine Set a routine that works for you. Acknowledge that you appreciate its tough, but you support and love them and together you two can do this. And if he's having those bothersome meltdowns when even reminded to get in there, remind him that if you can shock his nipples and swallow, he can pay attention to your body with more than one of his appendages. But always, with love.